saltmarshhag:

thehighshelf

Just to add, claiming that stone dykes have been historically asexual or aromantic is incorrect. For many/most, and within the historical use of the term, sexual gratification came from being stone. Stone has not been primarily a means to avoid sexual contact but a way of having sexual contact.

I love this. an important part of dialogue about sexuality is that sex can and should be defined by the UNIQUE specifics of how a person prefers to feel sexual gratification (whatever “sexual gratification” means… I’m sure that also depends on the specific wishes of the person). it’s not all-or-nothing. if you reject a “mainstream” view of sexuality that doesn’t mean you have to reject sexuality completely.